RECAP OF MY YEAR 2016!!!

Hurray Everyone... We made it into 2017!!

This is the 1st month of the year and as usual, I have been seeing numerous "New year" resolutions, rants and advises all over social media lolzz...I just hope we won't forget them half way into the year lmao😆.

This is a post I really have looked forward to, for a while now. As I would want to make this a standard on the blog, from this day onward (winks)😉. The Lord has been so good to me thus amidst all my worries and regrets. I can proudly say that God's works have been and will be made manifest in my life. The year 2016 has been a challenging and inspirational one as I saw myself making moves I didn't know I could make.

PATHWAY TO SUCCESS!!

As I ended the long phone call of my dad and I, long streams of tears rolled down my cheeks. Yes!! I cried, not because anything was bad at home (by God's grace). Judging from the sound of my dad's voice, I could hear the voice of a worried father, one who is worried about the survival of his children far from home. I could feel my Dad holding tight because he didn't want to get all emotional(As a Man), some may ask how I got to know all that from a mere phone call(surprising right?), anyways I have always been a daddys' girl. I can tell my father is worried about my future but funny enough I don't think I worry about anything anymore. As the first child of my parents, I have learnt to act strong for my siblings, sometimes I pretend that I am strong when truly I am dying Inside.

As a kid, I have always wanted to make my family super proud of  me because I saw my parents  struggle to achieve success. My story is that from grass to grace because each time I look back, I can't but thank God for how far he has brought me. Super personal right? Social media has painted a picture where everyone seems to want to prove to the world how well they are living their life. No one shows the success process anymore just the success stories. Very few friends encourages business of their friends. But trust me, you would see such friend putting up a fight for a very distant, rich and famous celebrity, even as far as promoting her business but not that of her friend or family. like why? I thought family comes 1st but these days I think i am wrong. In the world of social media and promotion, the famous comes 1st. It may seem I am all over the place but I really hope you understand where i am coming from!!

I once read a book saying that the most successful people in life have little or no friends and from observation, research and reading other peoples success stories; I have come to realize how true it is. Why would an individual that chooses to be successful want to keep a crowd of people as friends like why? To be dragged down, Belittled, "Over familiarized" and even Gossiped about. But guess what?! Like my mother would always say "that's a Phase of life". In order for one to realize he/she is getting somewhere in life....he/she must be faced with some challenges not because one is stupid at making life's decision but because " Experience itself is the best teacher". Some of you may be wondering why this writeup? what's the point?.
I write this to encourage anyone out there going through some challenges, you are not alone dear!! Behind the smiles and pretense confidence of different people lies a child wanting to scream out loud and cry, some people have it worse than others in life but choose to be happy because they have realized there's a greater love out there which is the love of Jesus Christ that keeps them moving ( I am a christian for those who didn't know).

Some few days ago, I watched a video of a child who had no hands, was in a pretty severe state but was seriously very happy. That brought me to the word of God that tells us not to worried, it was only when I truly began to put this in practice, I began to realize it isn't easy not to worry. Why won't I worry when I don't know how my next fees would be sorted out? Why won't I worry when I don't know how my family is faring? Why won't I worry when I don't even know how I would recieve money to feed and take care of myself? Why won't I worry when I don't know my future? I have so many questions to ask my "Superior" and the more those questions come in, the more I doubted his word. Until I watched a video of a young kid, speaking so passionately on facebook.....I tell you!! She touched me. Where was my faith? How can I put my trust in God and still continue to doubt him, I asked myself. This made me realize certain things that truly the way to a man's downfall is his mind. "You are what, you choose to be". You can't decide to be an Engineer and think like a mechanic, you can't  decide to be a Doctor and think like an herbalist..(how dat one supposed be now) and with this I would give a run down on the pathway to success. 

• Choose and realize that you are different BE UNIQUE.....You can't be miss A when your name says B.
• Have confidence in yourself, you may not know everything and that's normal even the individual correcting don't know everything but be open to different opinions and ideas
• Have a goal and plan to work towards it "Man proposes but God disposes" so your goal should be committed to God in prayer, so his works would be made manifest.
• Don't be scared to ask for advise and help but be careful who you discuss your plans with
• Have a mentor!!
• Don't consider anyone a hater or anyone being jealous of you. you may as well be mis-diagnosing!! Leave your life without worry and free of hate, trust me that would make you a much happier person.
• Be open to critics not everyone likes the light or can identity light from darkness
• Try to see the best in others also because it is the energy you give out you receive..(practice what you preach).
• Don't be scared to be alone, do positive things that make you happy.....your friends will always come around
• Make efforts and sacrifices towards your goal....Don't be a lazy duckling!!
• Challenge yourself!!, when you fail.....GET UP!!(No man started any successful business in a day)
• Most importantly, build your relationship with God!! He is the only one that can truly speak to a man's mind. you would realize that the more you grow in Christ, the more happy and successful you become (for he says..."Come to me all you that are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light"...Matthew 11:28-30)

To sum things up, I will say with God everything is possible. When you work hand in hand with him, in realization that you are not prefect....I tell you!! Everything comes together for your good. Don't be bothered as to why small 'Uzezi' is writing this long post discussing about pathways to be successful or should I say... steps one should consider taking in order to be successful.These are things that have workedfor some successful men and women out there and I choose to share with them with you guys also. I really hope you enjoyed this post and found one or two things to pick up, as we both work our way towards success. At the end of the day "Success isn't about what you accomplish in your life...it's about what you inspire others to do. Have a lovely weekend loves, until next time XOXO.



Actor: Uzzy_rac

AN EX'S DILEMMA"PART 2"

The next morning🌖 was a happy one for Ayo, she had woken the whole house up with loud music bursting out🎶of her room. Ayo Ayo don't kill us with all this oyinbo music ooo screamed her mother from the living room downstairs...too late Ayo was in her own world humming and dancing 💃around her room as she sorted out the things, she bought from the States back home for her loved ones👭. All she needed to do next was help herself to breakfast and hop off to her father's best friend "Alhaji sari" for a tour around his company and business meeting. Her main reasons for coming back was to secure a contact worth millions of Naira, her father's friend had promised her and also to gather some basic knowledge of how companies function in Nigeria. Funny enough if things turns out well, she wouldn't be securing contacts alone but a man's heart as well💘.....Segun's of course😉.

AN EX'S DILEMMA!!!

She had just gotten back🛬 from the states and Nigeria was looking a bit weird in her eyes🤓. The airport✈ seems to look a lot smaller and busier. As she sat down waiting for her dad's driver to come pick her up at the early hours of the morning, she thought about her old and ex-lover💘 'Segun'. Segun used to be her boyfriend those days, they dated for almost a year before she traveled to the states, to further her education. He also traveled but to the United Kingdom instead for his masters. Communication between them had been 'a storm in the jungle' all those while but now that she knows he's back in Nigeria, same as her......She could feel the tingling in her tummy, as all her muscles yearns for 'Segun's' touch💏.


Ayo Ayo!!..a cranky hoarse voice🗣 called from behind her. 'Jesu mi' you startled me 😲screamed Ayo, as she was awoken from her daydream by the voice of her driver. Ayo na you be dis? see as you don fat yakata. Wetin una dey chop for dat side na?(pidgin) was the response from the surprised driver🤔.  Uncle its just food ooo says Ayo, as she covers her face in embarrassment. The loud voice of the driver had called unwanted attention to her direction and  the shy 🙈girl within her couldn't deal with the numerous amount of gaze and questioning eyes aimed at her. She swiftly made her way to the car, leaving the driver to her luggage.


The journey home wasn't a bad one as 'uncle' kept on talking about all the activities that had taken place at her absence. How their neighbor's daughter got pregnant and ran away with an okada man, How armed robbers attacked one rich chief on their street and how her younger brother broke his leg while trying to drive their dads car without his permission. She was aware of everything that had taken place but she just kept😷 quiet, saying...'is that so?' and 'okay' to his gist. Her mother had told her all this on phone the last time they spoke but she didn't want to kill his happiness, as she could see the joy😃 in his eyes and hear the excitement in his voice as he updated her with  previous events. Hope say you buy something come for me ooo, as all this children wey dey travel, dey forget common people like us! said the driver with a serious voice, on arrival to her family's compound. "How na "uncle" I bought something for you" said excited and tired Ayo. Okay was his only response as he proceeded into the compound.


Home sweet home 🤗she screamed on entering her father's compound with joy and a bit of relaxation in her voice. Don't "Home sweet home" there joor!! shouted her mother at the entrance into the main building. So you cannot come back home with one oyibo man, Ayo in this current economy, you graduated from school and you are coming back home to eat my garri!!. This girl will not kill me oooo screamed her mum in a pretentious crying voice. Mama calm down jare!! I am just getting home na....at least hug me first smiled Ayo😊. She knows her mother so well and understands her drama to perfection. I hear you said her mum, Oya go and greet you father, let me carry all the things you bought for me inside. Hope you bought that Louboutin shoe and Chanel purse I told you about oooo. There's this meeting in our church and I must show them that my child just came from America?. "Mama I did" was Ayo's reply as she ran inside to greet her father.


My lovely daughter, don't mind your mother jare said her father with a very big smile on his face as he came to hug her🤗. Your mother has been praying since yesterday as soon as you got on the plane, she didn't even let me sleep sef, she speaks out of love my dear continued her father. Mr Femi looked so old in her eyes, the grey hairs 👴on his head and face had multiplied enormously while her mother was looking all robust and glowing in all manner👱. Don't mind your mother jare, she eats all the food in the house said her dad, it seems he knew what she was thinking. Mummy, daddy can I go to my room now? I am exhausted😪 said Ayo giving her parents the puppy eye look. You can go to your room ooo but take this sim card I bought and registered for you, so you can make some calls📞 said her mother. Okay mum you're a darling, see you at dinner. Okay my love but I gave Segun your number ooo, he has been calling to ask after you and I told him you were coming back today, So he may call you. Mummy!!! haba na, anyways I will see you at dinner kisses😚 Ayo replied as she ran up the stairs to her room.


Oh my God!! So Segun knows I am in town she said rather loud and to herself as she slammed her room door shut and jumped on her bed, the excitement was just too much for her to handle🙈. She thought about kissing him 💏and all the numerous things she wanted to do to him. Her mind was filled with both sweet and bad thoughts. So he wants me back? So he still wants me as his girlfriend? She thought to herself. She had been a celibate for the four years she was in school and she was ready to give everything up to Segun ......if he still feels the same way about her and was ready for them to start afresh!!

If you enjoyed the story, you should leave a comment below saying "CONTINUE" for me to write and publish part two.Thanks for visiting once more, XOXO.

Part two is up on blog now (CLICK HERE) to take you directly to the post#KISSES


Actor: Uzzy_rac

EMOTIONS!!!

It can be difficult to understand a person we are in a relationship with especially when sometimes we don't even understand ourselves. Why do we feel good about ourselves one moment and bad another? Why does a person change their attitude towards us from one day to the next? Each human is a complex creature whose behavior is driven by emotion, beliefs, point of view and how much coffee they had that morning. Combine that with another person who is driven by different emotions, beliefs, point of view, how much they drank last night and we have an opportunity for emotional drama and chaos. Some call it roller coaster of emotions while others are calling for relationship help.

   

It has always amazed me the unlimited array of emotions that we human beings are able to feel and experience. Furthermost, I am astounded that these feelings and emotions may fluctuate within minutes, sometimes seconds. We can feel them in our bodies, hearts and deep within ourselves. Pleasurable emotions are the reasons why most people go into a relationship. We have been told that when someone experiences a "high emotional state" it is called Love and so suddenly "we are in love". This is why some people claim to have "been swept off their feet ". Imagine for a second, a woman standing in the middle of a street and suddenly a strange and strong "force" overcomes her then sweeps her off her feet. I bet by now you are probably smiling, imagining this scene. This is what we usually call Love, something we are "struck by" and over which we have little control.


Moreover, since this feeling is so pleasurable and envelops our bodies in a hormonal "high", we immediately become "hooked" on it. Who hasn't felt that? Who doesn't love that? If the story ended there , it would be fantastic. The issue is that a few years later, when the heightened feelings have diminished, we are left to experience life with its mix of positives and negatives, we say we have "fallen out of love" but before concluding that, let's explore what an emotion really is.

EMOTION is a psychological state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and it is sometimes accompanied by physiological changes called feelings.

While I can agree that an emotion can arise spontaneously in a human being , what is also true is that one of the greatest gifts and benefits of becoming an adult is having the ability to decide what meaning we will apply to each one of our experiences. Along the line , we tend to experience some lows in our emotions and feel unhappy, What are you going to do as a conscious adult when this happens and is faced with the 'givens' of life? Are your emotions and actions aligned towards the achievement of your goals and values?.


Life is not about controlling our environment so we never experience pain, loss, sadness, grief or temporary defeat...trying to exercise control is absolutely futile, as it is only an illusion, no matter how much we try to get it, it is like trying to hold air in our hands. What is really important are the tools you use when the unexpected happens and the actions you take when they do happen because they will and the actions you take then...those actions and reactions, will define the course of your life.

But what do I know about life? If this post was helpful, feel free to comment below and share. You could subscribe for new post notification by email. Stay blessed and Thanks. XO XO.

Reference: Erika Ferenzi, Joyce Meyer ---Pathways to happiness.

MODERN NIGERIA AND EDUCATION!!!

     Parents listen to your children, we are the leaders of tomorrow (hmmm)...try to pay our school fees and give us the best Education!!!. Most of us would remember this song from our primary school days. I in particular, with my long white socks, skin cut hairstyle (bald) and over-sized school uniform ....mehnnnn!!, I used to scream that song at assembly, believing in my heart that I was the future of Nigeria. Now each time this song comes in mind, it brings to reality the current situation of my country. I wonder, do they still sing this song anymore (giggles)??. Are we really the future of Nigeria?.

    Once upon a time, were stories told to us by our parents of how they trekked, hawked and trained themselves through school because they knew the great importance of Education. I won't say people don't do that now but it is a very difficult task and would be too over bearing. The Nigeria government has frustrated the dreams of many youths and hopes of several parents. I say this because it now seems like they no longer have an interest in Education or the Talents of the youths (although some entertainers are trying in this section not government). I keep hearing words like "The standard of Education has fallen" and  "The youths are no longer focused",NO...that's not true, we are simply not motivated as before because we are scared of our future. We find ourselves struggling in school, same as those who has graduated.


    Imagine a Government cutting out almost all Educational expenses, sending back its students who were abroad back home with reasons that they can't afford to pay for their education any longer ( but can afford to pay millions of dollars for luxury cars), increasing the cost of a Federal university fee. Therefore, making it difficult for poor determined parents to train his/ her child to higher education. Students who are out of the country studying, are expected to pay their school fees at 'whatever' conversion rate and if they can't afford it.....well!!!. Talent isn't encouraged as well, imagine the embarrassing incident on the part of the Government during this 2016 Olympics (No financial support, wrong national anthem, even calling Nigeria...'United states of Nigeria'....Haba na).


    Why won't a struggling youth want to leave Nigeria and go invest his/her talent and educational experience somewhere else. Somewhere it is appreciated, a place with good job security and where his/her options and Ideas isn't waved aside for the fact that, " he/she is a youth, thus what does he/she knows about life".

   When will Nigeria restore their lost faith in us youths?.
   When will Nigeria invest in their youths?.
   When will Nigeria realize we are the future of tomorrow?.
   Will Nigeria Government make education a priority once again?.

So many questions pondering in my head as I write this post, what do you guys think about the current situation of Nigeria, is there still hope for us?. Let's make the comment section interesting. THANKS FOR YOUR VISIT ONCE AGAIN!
  

I BE WAFFI, SO WHAT?

   

Growing up in the city of Warri, Delta state, Nigeria and having most part of my Education there has enabled me develop a close association and understanding of its people (my people).This has made me realize so many things. The strict upbringing from my parents can be said to be a blessing in disguise(God bless my parents).....Yes!!!, I say " Blessing in disguise"because they tried so hard for us, their children not to pick up some negative habits from the streets although I won't say their effort was completely successful lolzz


    " Negative habits" like.........wrong pronunciations, the "sh" and "H" factors, the use of deep Waffi pidgin, hotheadedness, a high level of aggressiveness, restlessness, impatience, poor sense of style or should I say....the use of multiple unrelated colored pieces of clothing, extra loud makeup, colorful hair weaves(colors like green,blue,pink used all at once) and did I mention that if it's human hair....the longer and fuller, the better!!!


     Searching the Internet for the word "Warri" shows a whole lot of aggressiveness and prostitution on its image feed. This leaves me wondering and slightly amazed. Is this how the World see us?. Can't similar characteristics be said about other cities and states in Nigeria?. Are we known mostly for these negative habits and can any good be known of us?.


     I must say, it gets annoying sometimes when the tag "Warri girl/boy" is used loosely  with negative intentions and reasons. It comes as no shock also, when people claim to know how you behave because of stories and jokes heard about the city "Warri".

    Realistically the city does have a way of influencing the People in it. It is very difficult to have lived in Warri and not pick up a habit or two from its streets but that is what made us who we are today. Our environment has challenged us to strive for success and betterment of ourselves molding us into strong hustlers, over achievers and opportunists.Our society has made us crave intelligence and challenged us to be friendly, jovial, confident, humble individuals.
    I just hope we try to judge people by their personalities other than by their upbringing and location because  "NOT ALL FIELDS ARE GREEN". UP WARRI!!!

MY MAN TELLS ME HOW TO LOOK!!!

   

   This new age of makeup, fashion, timberlands and snapbacks also the ongoing struggle over swag and class . I find it absurd to hear that some men still have the mentality and idea that the physical appearance of a woman should  change after marriage. From all glowing and fashionable to "NO LOOK AREA" lolzz.


     Yesssss ooooo "NO LOOK AREA". I say this because a woman who once applied makeup, made her hair and looked smart, would change all that and starts looking like she's  mourning!!. Worse case scenario is when a man tells a woman to cut all her hair off and stay bald. I know....I know, I am not saying all Men!!. There are actually some men who do the opposite and want their women sparkling and the envy of others (I heard Igbo men are good at taking care of their women).


    A part of me wonders what runs in a man's mind. Why would a man be attracted to a woman who looked a certain way and still have the intention of changing everything physical that attracted him, when and eventually they get married. Is it for the fear of other men or was there never an interest or likeness for those things and "they" were never spoken of ?. Changing a persons' life, I have learnt that it shouldn't be a one way street. It is something that should be done with good intentions, understanding and reasons with a loving heart for the betterment of the individual in question.


   The main questions here are......?
-Should a woman's physical appearance be decided by a man or should I say..... are men allowed to dictate how women should dress in our everyday life, relationship or in marriage?.
   I would love to know the worse thing a partner has tried to change about you. please leave your replies and opinion in the comment section below. Kisses and Welcome to my blog.