It can be difficult to understand a person we are in a relationship with especially when sometimes we don't even understand ourselves. Why do we feel good about ourselves one moment and bad another? Why does a person change their attitude towards us from one day to the next? Each human is a complex creature whose behavior is driven by emotion, beliefs, point of view and how much coffee they had that morning. Combine that with another person who is driven by different emotions, beliefs, point of view, how much they drank last night and we have an opportunity for emotional drama and chaos. Some call it roller coaster of emotions while others are calling for relationship help.
It has always amazed me the unlimited array of emotions that we human beings are able to feel and experience. Furthermost, I am astounded that these feelings and emotions may fluctuate within minutes, sometimes seconds. We can feel them in our bodies, hearts and deep within ourselves. Pleasurable emotions are the reasons why most people go into a relationship. We have been told that when someone experiences a "high emotional state" it is called Love and so suddenly "we are in love". This is why some people claim to have "been swept off their feet ". Imagine for a second, a woman standing in the middle of a street and suddenly a strange and strong "force" overcomes her then sweeps her off her feet. I bet by now you are probably smiling, imagining this scene. This is what we usually call Love, something we are "struck by" and over which we have little control.
Moreover, since this feeling is so pleasurable and envelops our bodies in a hormonal "high", we immediately become "hooked" on it. Who hasn't felt that? Who doesn't love that? If the story ended there , it would be fantastic. The issue is that a few years later, when the heightened feelings have diminished, we are left to experience life with its mix of positives and negatives, we say we have "fallen out of love" but before concluding that, let's explore what an emotion really is.
EMOTION is a psychological state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and it is sometimes accompanied by physiological changes called feelings.
While I can agree that an emotion can arise spontaneously in a human being , what is also true is that one of the greatest gifts and benefits of becoming an adult is having the ability to decide what meaning we will apply to each one of our experiences. Along the line , we tend to experience some lows in our emotions and feel unhappy, What are you going to do as a conscious adult when this happens and is faced with the 'givens' of life? Are your emotions and actions aligned towards the achievement of your goals and values?.
Life is not about controlling our environment so we never experience pain, loss, sadness, grief or temporary defeat...trying to exercise control is absolutely futile, as it is only an illusion, no matter how much we try to get it, it is like trying to hold air in our hands. What is really important are the tools you use when the unexpected happens and the actions you take when they do happen because they will and the actions you take then...those actions and reactions, will define the course of your life.
But what do I know about life? If this post was helpful, feel free to comment below and share. You could subscribe for new post notification by email. Stay blessed and Thanks. XO XO.
Reference: Erika Ferenzi, Joyce Meyer ---Pathways to happiness.
It has always amazed me the unlimited array of emotions that we human beings are able to feel and experience. Furthermost, I am astounded that these feelings and emotions may fluctuate within minutes, sometimes seconds. We can feel them in our bodies, hearts and deep within ourselves. Pleasurable emotions are the reasons why most people go into a relationship. We have been told that when someone experiences a "high emotional state" it is called Love and so suddenly "we are in love". This is why some people claim to have "been swept off their feet ". Imagine for a second, a woman standing in the middle of a street and suddenly a strange and strong "force" overcomes her then sweeps her off her feet. I bet by now you are probably smiling, imagining this scene. This is what we usually call Love, something we are "struck by" and over which we have little control.
Moreover, since this feeling is so pleasurable and envelops our bodies in a hormonal "high", we immediately become "hooked" on it. Who hasn't felt that? Who doesn't love that? If the story ended there , it would be fantastic. The issue is that a few years later, when the heightened feelings have diminished, we are left to experience life with its mix of positives and negatives, we say we have "fallen out of love" but before concluding that, let's explore what an emotion really is.
EMOTION is a psychological state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and it is sometimes accompanied by physiological changes called feelings.
While I can agree that an emotion can arise spontaneously in a human being , what is also true is that one of the greatest gifts and benefits of becoming an adult is having the ability to decide what meaning we will apply to each one of our experiences. Along the line , we tend to experience some lows in our emotions and feel unhappy, What are you going to do as a conscious adult when this happens and is faced with the 'givens' of life? Are your emotions and actions aligned towards the achievement of your goals and values?.
Life is not about controlling our environment so we never experience pain, loss, sadness, grief or temporary defeat...trying to exercise control is absolutely futile, as it is only an illusion, no matter how much we try to get it, it is like trying to hold air in our hands. What is really important are the tools you use when the unexpected happens and the actions you take when they do happen because they will and the actions you take then...those actions and reactions, will define the course of your life.
But what do I know about life? If this post was helpful, feel free to comment below and share. You could subscribe for new post notification by email. Stay blessed and Thanks. XO XO.
Reference: Erika Ferenzi, Joyce Meyer ---Pathways to happiness.
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